“Should I Forgive An Abusive Father, And Re-Establish Contact With Him?” (Podcast)

This is probably the most serious question I’ve ever received from a reader.  A very heart-felt email from a man who is faced with an extremely difficult situation: he has been contacted by a dying father who abandoned and abused him as a child, and who now wants to have contact with him.  He is unsure whether he should re-establish contact.  We offer some suggestions on how to arrive at a decision.

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“Don’t Thank Me, Boy” (Podcast)

A reader has a question about the direction he should take in life. His father died recently, and he is feeling the effects of delayed shock and repressed anger. He feels like he has been denied a positive role model.

I offer some thoughts and suggestions, using an anecdote and then some commentary.

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